andrewmosesmiller:

dayzea:

thedatingfeminist:

I honestly think relationships in general would be healthier, in general, if we didn’t believe they should last forever.

When the default is “forever” and shorter relationships are seen as a failure, we miss out on a lot. We stay in relationships that don’t work because they’re not “bad enough” to leave, as though not wanting the relationship anymore isn’t a good enough reason. We deny ourselves happy memories, saying “If it doesn’t work now, our love then wasn’t real.” We pass on relationships we know would be short, because if it doesn’t last forever, what’s the point in joy in the moment?

An ending isn’t a failure. It’s an ending. Most relationships have them. What would our relationships be like if we stopped focusing on our fear of endings and started focusing on what we - and our friends, partners, and family - need right now?

I think about this all the time. Thank you, for whoever put it into words!

my mom tells us this all the time. some relationships (like her and my dads) run their course romantically. doesn’t mean it was a failure or that either would take it back. people just grow and change and not always in the same ways. you can love someone and still accept that the relationship isn’t healthy or beneficial anymore.